Letting Go Is More Important Than Gaining
With the world we live in today—marketing, ads, content everywhere—it’s easy to get stuck in the mindset that we are lacking. That we need to go find something, someone, some next step to finally feel better, to get back on track. But here’s the truth most people miss: it’s not about gaining more. Most of the time, it’s about what we need to let go of.
We often forget that it’s ourselves holding us back from healing and growth in nearly every part of our life. It’s the small bits of poison we’ve carried—limiting beliefs, false stories, environments and people that don’t serve us. Like a single drop in a cup, it spoils the whole thing. And then we wonder why nothing feels right.
We hold onto relationships, we chase people for no real reason other than “we should” or “I’m attracted.” But when we sit with it, really analyse what’s going on, we often see the red flags. We see the behaviour that hurts us. We feel our body shrink. Do you really enjoy walking on eggshells around someone, unsure if a hello will upset them? Or being in a business that leaves you drained, empty, lost for purpose?
We think we just need to try harder. That if we don’t upset that person, or if we prove ourselves more, they’ll treat us better. But real love doesn’t need to be worked for like that. Love is action, not a transaction. And it definitely isn’t earned by shrinking yourself.
So let someone be an arsehole if they want. Let them be rude, cruel, controlling—but let them be that to someone else. Because when we accept that behaviour, when we stay in those environments, we’re telling ourselves and the universe that this is what we deserve. We attract what we believe we’re worth. And if deep down we feel unworthy, that’s exactly what will keep showing up.
You are worth more. You’re worth what you desire. The problem is, the world—and often our own upbringing—taught us otherwise. But the very fact you desire something better means it’s possible. You just have to believe it.
This life is full of relationships and opportunities. So why waste time on the ones that pull you down?
We all get caught in the belief that more is better—that if we just gain something, we’ll be okay. But real change comes when we let go of what’s in the way. When we stop trying to fit into places that make us feel small. When we choose growth over familiarity, even if that means sitting in discomfort for a while.
The start of change feels exciting. But when the discomfort sets in, when we feel out of place in this new version of life, doubt creeps in. That’s where most people quit. But if we stay the course, that new, uncomfortable place eventually becomes home. With repetition, it becomes our new normal. And that’s where the real growth kicks in. It's not what more you can gain. You already have all you need. You just are not using it yet.
So ask yourself—what’s weighing you down?
It’s not always about what’s missing.
Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is let go.