I know it’s hard to move into new genuine attraction, to let go of what feels like it protects us. We never want to experience the hurt we’ve been through before, so we protect ourselves. Sometimes we protect so much that we forget to experience the full impact of what could be possible.
But it’s okay to feel this way, too.
I want you to know that you are capable of rebuilding and of trusting again — knowing that if it doesn’t work out, it won’t hurt as much this time. And if it does work out, you get to experience fully what it feels like to trust again, to live again.
This trust doesn’t come from another person — it comes from trusting yourself. Trusting that you’ve got this. That you can be vulnerable and open. Authentic to the point that they either accept you for who you are or move away. Either way, you get your answer.
Relationships are never perfect. But understanding that we can trust and let go, feel safe with another, while knowing internally that “I’ve got this,” is freeing.
We fear because we feel that strength is not within our own capabilities — but it is. It always has been. Your authentic self has always told you: you are enough, you are never too much, and you have everything you need to meet life’s challenges.
If we spend our time looking for blows that may never come, we live inside our heads — always in the future, controlled by the past, never fully in the present.
So yes, have boundaries. Yes, validate trust. But seeing one action as the cause and effect for a negative future that hasn’t arrived (and may never arrive) robs us of feeling all the magical emotions available now.
Trust that what is meant for you is meant for you. Being vulnerable is simply removing the mask and giving yourself permission to feel again, to lean in — despite the past. This is strength. This is trust.
“I am choosing what I want, and I am comfortable to be accountable either way. I choose not to miss the opportunities of something that may be good, that may be great, while bringing the wisdom of my past to guide me along the way.”