Letting Go of Hatred After Separation

It’s interesting, the amount of hatred people hold for a former partner. But I’m here to tell you: you need to let it go.

Why? Not just for yourself, but for your former partner, and for everyone connected to your life.

If reality mirrors what we feel inside, then the hatred or desire to hurt another person only reflects that same energy back toward ourselves.

We might feel jealous of someone, but that jealousy often reveals a deeper belief that we can’t have what they have. If that belief wasn’t true, just imagine it: if you genuinely believed you had the ability to create or obtain what you were jealous of, that jealousy would dissolve instantly.

The way we see our reality is not always the reality we live in.

I’m sorry to say this, and not sorry at the same time, but if you’re angry and holding onto that hate, you need to let it go. People do things because, in some way, they believe it will bring them peace or safety. It doesn’t make their actions right, but it explains them.

I know it sucks. But the more we complain, the more we reinforce the belief that someone else controls our future, our emotions, and our reality.

Someone once asked me a strange but powerful question:

“How often do you kiss your mum when you’re drunk?”

It sounds funny at first, but it implies something profound, that we are always in control of our actions, no matter what state we’re in.

And when we truly accept that, that we control our reactions, our healing, and our energy, that’s when freedom begins.

It's time to let go!!