Articles and Blogs

Our articles and blogs dive deep into the emotional reality of conflict separation, exploring the pain, fear, and growth that come with co-parenting, rebuilding after loss, and learning to love again. Through honest reflection and grounded insight, we unpack the hidden patterns and emotional triggers that shape how you think, feel, and respond during and after separation.

These writings explore what it means to raise children between two homes, to face the uncertainty of new relationships, and to navigate the complex layers of identity that form when love, family, and trust have been tested. These writings aim to help you recognise your emotional triggers, understand your behavioural responses, and uncover the internal representations you’ve built from your past experiences, the mental and emotional filters that shape how you see the world, others, and yourself.

By bringing awareness to these patterns, you begin to shift from reactivity to regulation, from fear to understanding. Our goal is to help you find calm through the chaos, rebuild emotional safety, and create relationships, with your children, your partner, and yourself, that are rooted in awareness, authenticity, and growth.

New relationship beginnings

This category explores what it’s really like to open your heart again after conflict separation. Dating after trauma or court battles isn’t simple, it’s raw and uncertain. These blogs unpack the patterns and defences that protect yet sabotage connection, from fear and hyper-vigilance to emotional shutdown. You’ll learn to recognise healthy love, set boundaries, rebuild trust, and understand vulnerability as strength. It’s about healing, not rushing, creating love that feels safe, real, and new

Relaxing Into Uncertainty After Conflict Separation

Relaxing into the variations of a partner’s emotional responses is the key to unravelling the fear of uncertainty that forms after the family court system in new potential relationships. When you spend so long being told what you’re doing wrong, a pattern builds where hyper vigilance around personal mistakes becomes automatic. You overanalyse yourself to the point of discomfort. Tie this to a former judgmental partner who always made it feel like everything was your fault, an

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 213 min read

You Are Not Tired of Walking on Eggshells in the Relationship, You're Tired of Monitoring Your Own Behaviour

Most people think they’re walking on eggshells because of their partner. But for so many anxiously attached or hyper-vigilant individuals, the truth is far more confronting: You’re not tired of your partner’s reactions. You ’re tired of analysing yourself every second of the day. But where is the true origin? You’re tired of trying to get everything right. Tired of scanning for micro-threats. Tired of trying to predict how someone might feel. Tired of checking, rechecking, re

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 203 min read

Dating, The Holding Back of Telling Our Truth, Fear of Rejection

The Holding Back of Telling Our Truth – Fear of Rejection I think we all have this feeling — the hesitation, the holding back — especially when we feel that our past experiences might define how someone sees us. People say they don’t care what others think, and maybe that’s true to a point. But that usually erodes pretty quickly when we meet someone new. When we start to feel something. When the chance to be seen comes along. It doesn’t always start like that. Sometimes we’re

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 63 min read

Settling for Stability While Ignoring Red Flags

I see this all the time, and I’ve felt it in myself. That drive for stability after separation, to rebuild, to feel safe again. It’s understandable. When you’ve been through something as intense as a high-conflict separation, you don’t just want love, you crave ground beneath your feet. So we meet someone who seems like they have it all together. Good job, good car, a nice life. It looks like everything we’ve been trying to rebuild on our own, already built in front of us. Bu

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 62 min read

Wishing Others Would Change, And Why That Keeps Us Stuck

So many people sit in relationships feeling stuck. It’s the same person, same arguments, same frustrations—but we hold on, hoping something will shift. Some leave, thinking they’ll find someone “better,” only to end up in the same dynamic with a new face. Others pray that their partner will change, that the universe will finally deliver someone who matches their values, their vibe. As if there’s a shortage of people, or worse, as if it’s all about finding someone else to fill

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 63 min read

The Test We Receive to Grow

It is so easy to form the perspective that we just need to remove the dislikes we saw in our previous relationship, the things that made us angry, the personalities that set us off, and the situations that evolved that we’d say provoked us to behave the way we did. We look to the external world to blame for why we are the way we are. We hand over emotional authority to what happens outside of us. But what if these are actually tests? What if they’re opportunities to reveal t

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 62 min read

The Chase of a Partner

As we start to date again, especially after heartache or separation, it’s not uncommon to feel that pull — that yearning for connection. Some of us turn inwards out of fear, scared to be seen again. Some of us reach out, longing for the warmth of another. And every now and then, we go on a date, have a coffee, enjoy a walk — and something unexpected happens: genuine interest. Not just ours, but theirs too. And that’s when it hits. That moment where reality collides with desir

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 63 min read

You Weren’t Robbed, They Were Just Passing Through

It’s a strange feeling, that hollow ache when someone you’ve just started connecting with suddenly disappears. A date, a spark, a few days or weeks of what felt like potential, gone. Maybe they ghosted, maybe they said it wasn’t right, maybe they just drifted away without much explanation. And somehow, we’re left with more than sadness, we’re left grieving a vision. Not just the person, but what we thought they could be for us . We don’t often fall in love with who they are,

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 63 min read

Dating After Hurt — Saying the Truth Without Losing Yourself

I don’t want you to feel bad about holding onto your truth when you meet someone you genuinely feel a connection with. Sometimes we meet someone at the gym, while out for coffee, doing the usual routine, and there’s this moment where you finally get the courage to say hi. You feel a spark. Maybe you swap numbers, grab a coffee, laugh a little, feel that familiar feeling of being seen again. But then there’s that gut pull — that internal voice that says, “You need to tell them

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 54 min read

The Hidden Cost of Holding On: Fear, Authenticity, and Commitment

It’s not surprising when we see individuals caught in relational conflict. More and more, the authentic self is being hidden—an attempt to shield the heart from the risk of rejection. So we hide. We meet people wearing the same masks, talking ourselves up while concealing the past that we fear may be seen the wrong way. We don’t want to hide, but it takes courage to be honest. Most people step into a new relationship, a new love, a new life, while still holding onto something

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 52 min read

Learning to Trust Again

I know it’s hard to move into new genuine attraction, to let go of what feels like it protects us. We never want to experience the hurt we’ve been through before, so we protect ourselves. Sometimes we protect so much that we forget to experience the full impact of what could be possible. But it’s okay to feel this way, too. I want you to know that you are capable of rebuilding and of trusting again — knowing that if it doesn’t work out, it won’t hurt as much this time. And if

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 52 min read

Articles and Blogs

New relationship beginnings

Relaxing Into Uncertainty After Conflict Separation

You Are Not Tired of Walking on Eggshells in the Relationship, You're Tired of Monitoring Your Own Behaviour

Dating, The Holding Back of Telling Our Truth, Fear of Rejection

Settling for Stability While Ignoring Red Flags

Wishing Others Would Change, And Why That Keeps Us Stuck

The Test We Receive to Grow

The Chase of a Partner

You Weren’t Robbed, They Were Just Passing Through

Dating After Hurt — Saying the Truth Without Losing Yourself

The Hidden Cost of Holding On: Fear, Authenticity, and Commitment

Learning to Trust Again

Your Pathway to Healing