200% Go, Creative Inventor +
Separation and Life Coach for High Functioning Achievers & Driven Entrepreneurs
I don’t come from study and reading alone, though I have read hundreds of books, from psychology to marketing, business and economics to spirituality, love languages, attachment styles, and more. All in an attempt to find myself after years of searching for what was never lost, just dormant, held back by the fear of being the real me.
You don’t get to this point because life went well. It came from losing relationships I deeply cared for, being severely hurt by those I thought loved me, trauma, betrayal, threats, and intimidation that lasted for years. Outcomes that would scar most people and leave them hiding in the shadows. And for a while, I did.
But my heart wouldn’t let me sit idle.
The nervous system does something strange when it finally lets go of outcomes and begins to embrace the experience. That doesn’t mean we stop caring. It means we can open our heart fully, speak our truth, and care for another person without clinging to an outcome. To take action on a new project, Idea, business and not submit to fear in Uncertainty.
It was that energy, that confidence in self, that pushed me to invent a product, turn it into a business, and sell it across Australia in three months, when others said it would take years. It's the energy that made me get a building license at 21 and start a carpentry business of my own.
That same energy doesn’t just challenge the perception of others’ reality, but my own.
You can tell when someone has walked through hell, sat in the dark of their inner mind, and decided that if the world isn’t going to change, then I will change myself. Not in defiance, but in letting go of what everything used to mean. No longer clinging to force, but embodying true power. The power to be oneself. The kind of power that energises those around them, not through words, but through presence.
This is the type of leadership and strength that makes a partner feel safe. That quiet sense of “you’ve got this.”
This isn’t about talking or telling people what to do. This energy is felt within the observer, at a core level. What once made most people weaken and back away became an experiment of curiosity. A deep trust in self. A knowing that whatever happens, I can handle it either way.
It’s been a journey to say the least, one that has embodied all my values into one core life choice: coaching. I can’t sit back anymore and watch people give up on themselves while refusing to see the reality I see for them. I don’t agree that life is ever over, and I don’t accept that we are incapable of adaptation. That belief is ego. The tighter you cling to the old life, to who you think you are or how you must be seen, the tighter you grip for control.
My lumbar fracture stopped me from building in 2018. The pain and loss of strength in my left leg took away what I thought I needed. It felt like life was cruel. I had already lost my marriage and my children. Years later, I went through more relationship trauma. I lost my home, lost my physical strength, lost a new relationship, and then faced another surgery. I was desperately trying to hold onto my old life and who I thought I had to be to be accepted. It wasn’t working.
Family court. Litigation abuse. Threats. All while trying to build a new business.
That was the point I decided I would adapt, and I would change. The willpower and intention to step into uncertainty, knowing I would come out alive. Back to the gym. A back healing from surgery. Scar tissue creating more pain. Increasing the weight on my squat again. Years after once being able to deadlift 140kg for 30 repetitions and cycle 800 kilometres a week.
My mind screamed, I can’t. But I knew that was the beginning of change. The body and the mind would adapt, and my nervous system would learn that I am safe.
Some more stories
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I am a natural Artist, I can draw almost anything. My creative perspective made reading plans and building effortless, allowing me to visualise the end goal from words and images on paper, and what allows me to invent new products to solve real world problems. I now use this skill to see beyond immediate relational behaviour and the outcome in the future.
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I have a full residential building license. My own stubbiness when I was younger led me to build 4 houses (timber framing) on my own. I learnt how valuable relationships are in so many ways and how our behaviour affect them and our revenue.
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If you talk to me about most cars ill probably switch of, but you want to talk about the Ford GT40, Mustangs, Camaro or motor bikes and I'm all ears.
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When I am passionate about something I am all in. So if you coach with me I'll be the one in your corner from day one. so if your not ready to do the work needed for change, we won't be a good match.
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I read something almost every day, whether thats psychology, business or anything that increases my ability to grow and help take my clients to their next level.
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I laugh at British comedy, I find it hilarious and dark humour, if you know, we will get along swell.
In the trenches
I have seen and felt what humans can do to each other. The attempt to destroy someone’s life. I have felt that pain and loss of self. I am deeply against this type of behaviour and will never advocate for revenge. I believe in speaking your truth without controlling or the intention to hurt another.
I work with those who want to move beyond anger, whether that anger is directed at another person, the world, society, or genders, and instead choose to change their life for themselves. As a separation coach for individuals going through high-conflict separation or the family court system, I am in the trenches with you. I am there to help you get through it and to thrive after, to build a new identity.
I am not about tactics or manipulation to get a former partner back. I am not into game theory. I embody real, authentic change. Falling in love with yourself.
It, ALWAYS starts with us!
Embracing who you truly are. The creative expression of your soul, and the passions and skills the world so desperately needs to see.
This work is about building a person from what feels like ashes into who you always knew you were.
It may feel like you have to hide yourself. Like what you did in a relationship. The emotional outbursts. The anger and frustration. That feeling that your life is chaos and no one can handle your energy. I know it. And I can handle it.
You might feel like I’m not being honest, like I’m just saying that. But I will always tell you the same thing: you are not chaos.
You are not broken. You’re not stuck. You just haven’t connected the dots
And that’s why you want me as a coach.
When people told me it couldn’t be done, I still attempted it anyway. If one way didn’t work, I tried another. I collected the data and changed the strategy.
Most of us grew up believing there is only one way to do things. Beliefs like:
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I have to work hard to earn money
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If I fail, I’ll be broke
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I can’t start a new business because I don’t have enough money
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I won’t survive if this happens
It’s all the same way of running life. The same thinking. The same strategies. The same patterns. And they keep producing the same outcomes. The same relationships. The same environments. The same results.
I know, because I’ve been there.
That’s why I studied NLP. To learn how to rewire the strategies we created and to change the patterns that keep repeating. When we work together, you won’t just change a little. You’ll wonder how it was even possible.
I am going to be Direct
If we work together, I expect discipline in following through on where you decide you want to grow. That doesn't mean we cant fall at times, it's in the repair that matters, the intention to keep moving forward, the intention and desire to change at the identity level.
We have to be a good fit. If it isn’t a hell yes from you, then it’s a no from me.
There are many articles and blogs for you to read through and free products that you can utilise to find your values that drive exponential growth.
When you are ready and I know that you are because you would have read this far if you didn't desire real change I would love to connect and learn more about you.