You are here for real change, the kind that transforms you at the identity level.
You know what you want, you already know it's possible and you won't take No for an answer.
You are the kind of person who is already up at 5am, planning the day ahead. You go 200% when you have a mission and a desired outcome. You have routines you stick to because you are disciplined, and you already know how to follow through. You don’t need anyone to tell you how, because when you were let down before and asked for help, you figured it out anyway.
You put effort into every area of life, but on some level it just isn’t clicking. It’s not that you need to work harder. It’s that something feels just beyond the veil, just out of reach of thought, and you don’t know what is holding you back.
You may have been through a high-conflict separation where your entire identity was put through the firing squad of interrogation and judgment. And now it feels like all the knowledge you’ve gained over the years, and all the strength you know you possess, no longer have permission to come back online.
I’m going to be very honest here.
You are not broken.
You never were, and you won’t be.
You’ve worked through stress before. I know you have. You can push through.
But something still doesn’t feel right.
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Carl Jung
You are tired of your own performance. You’re tired of working so hard in new relationships, whether intimate or career-focused, and the masks are wearing thin. You’ve become hyper-vigilant because of personal attacks and judgments, and new relationships leave you feeling like you’re walking on eggshells. Afraid of getting it wrong. Or you’ve switched off completely, numbing yourself to the perceived pain that may follow.
how has that left you feeling?
Like you can’t be authentically you.
No heart. No soul.
Worse, you fire up when you’re overwhelmed from keeping the act going for so long. The hyper-vigilance has made you anxious across so many areas of life that uncertainty now feels like alarm bells. You tell yourself you need more control to be safe. But it still results in the same negative outcome. And yet you’re too afraid to let go into the unknown.
I’m going to say this calmly, so it sinks in.
When we force things, we may get immediate results in relationships or career, but it rarely works long term. And you know the outcome, don’t you? You feel it when someone leaves. When staff resign. Leaving you believing you need more control and more strategies.
But then you see someone else. Calm. Easy-going. And yet they’re smashing life. Their relationships are solid. Friends want to be around them. And even when something goes wrong, they seem to brush it off, repair, and move on.
People I Coach are one or a mixture of these four
1. You have a career, have enormous potential, skills and talent but you have been through hell in relationships and past trauma's have turned into triggers and it unconsciously sabotage new relationships.
2. You know what to do and how to do it but the feeling of Uncertainty has you paralysed. Stuck in not taking action.
3. You're tired of all the heal the inner child, get the girl back, use this line methods that bring no result and worse fell like an in-Authentic tactics of manipulation. But your triggers still fire off and you regret it after, desperately wanting to repair the relationship.
4. You're going through the Family court process and you are losing your grounded centre. You're used to the storms of life but this feels like it's de-railing you. Your emotions seem to be in the driving seat.
5. You're the partner of someone who has gone through the family court system and you want to understand why they can be hot and cold, easy triggered and you want to repair the connection. You want to lean into them and feel safe.
Why Work with a separation and Entrepreneur Coach?
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Rebuild Tolerance for Uncertainty: Your nervous systems tolerance for the unknown makes you a force to be reckoned with. knowing that you have all the skills and capabilities to make it happen. You don't just take risks, but from an identity level you know and feel deep inside, that you got this.
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Re-Wire Triggers: Re-Wiring triggers formed from past relationships keeps you grounded, calm, present for new and healthy relationships, either intimate or other, no longer jumping at ghosts, defending yourself to subconsciously prove your worth in the belief that you are maintaining connection. You can handle the emotional Variations of your partner allowing them to lean into your natural leadership.
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Develop a deep level of Personal Understanding: There is something about understanding ourselves to the level of our soul that allows us to finally choice which character we want to play in this life. This is the point that reality seems to change infont of our eyes.
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Because I Know the Territory: I have been where you are. Building a business while serving separation, health issues, financial struggles and litigation abuse all at the same time, Alone, No emotional support.
I'm here to help you find yourself again. It was never lost.
Your are exhausted and yet you keep going because you know you will get through what ever comes your way.
You understand the risks in business and in life, with-in relationships and you are always looking for ways to improve.
When you have an idea, a concept, an invention, business, you go for it, you start looking for ways to peace it all together and you don't shy away from taking action.
You understand that at the heart of it, relationships are extremely important, that cultivating them and ever improving how you come across, from how you look to how you communicate means how someone interprets what you present to them.
You don't say lines like "I'm not responsible for how someone handles being told no" because you don't care, You know you are not responsible. You communicate because you know how to express your emotions while honouring the other person. Avoidance of the difficult conversations is not one of your values easily masked by some superiority and ego based complex. Hard conversations matter to you.
You hate the fake coaching, the manipulative methods that go against your very soul and integrity, yet you find it hard to not be your authentic self and speak your mind when you know something is wrong.
You are more interested if someone's words hold true to their behaviour and how they treat another person, even when it's difficult. You hold true to your values regardless of how you may feel.
You understand where true wealth comes from, not from possessions, toys, houses, trips around the world, but the ability to walk away from work and still have the finances coming in. It's not about building a relationship or a business it's about freedom and living life with the ones you love without having to worry about the next cash injection.
You understand how assets work and how they work for you to grow your wealth.
You know how to handle pressure, and what may de-rails you emotionally you see as another lesson to learn to ground yourself in the uncertainty.
You don't so much worry about the mistakes, but repeating them again. You learn how to improve, how to manage your emotions, how to handle your partners emotional variations and be the solid ground in which they lean on in times of trouble. You want to own your relationship mistakes and learn from them. You don't see personal attacks as a reason to personally attack back. You have learnt that that does not work creating emotional safety. You know people sometimes react emotionally in the moment and grace can repair distance.
You know how to laugh and find some of the funniest things as life itself, to be enjoyed, to grow mentally, physically, Spiritually, in wealth and knowledge.
You don't shy away from speaking what matters most to you.
You hold to your values even when you feel pressure to act in self protection.
You know there is something more to this life and that creation in business is more important than copying what everyone else is doing. You want to place your unique Authentic mark on this earth. A legacy for your children, an image that speaks beyond wealth alone. Not for personal ego but for service.
I know you don't feel like this now as separation, and a family court battle de-rails many from connection to themselves, it happens for so long that you feel that Identity has vanished. But I'm here to tell you, it's just dormant. trapped in a cocoon of strategies attempting to keep you safe.
Let me speak some truths to you.
You are not broken because you are reacting to triggers. You are attempting to maintain connection and prove worthiness at the subconscious level, but it felt like this strategy was needed for your own protection. even though you know it hurts your relationships.
You haven't hold back in relationships or business because you want to or because you don't know. It's because you created an internal belief that uncertainty is to be feared. You have lost trust in your own capabilities to problem solve and capacity to handle the unknown.
You dont hold back saying your truth because you don't value your beliefs, but because you fear the outcome when you do. I promise you, you will say your truths and own them, you are not responsible for how someone's handles your truths.
Confidence is not what we have been marketed to believe,
- It is Trust in self.
The work we will do is not going to be surface level but I know that surface level doesn't interest you.
I know that you Desire Change and any behaviour that is getting in your way, you want to re-tire. You know new thinking, New beliefs and strategies can get you the outcome you desire and, you will go all in.
You have been hiding yourself for long enough, trying to please everyone, to not upset, been seen as the nice person, but all that collapsing or your Authentic self is only hurting you and everyone that desires to feel your real presence.
You know what I am talking about. You're there, but your mind is fair away, hyper vigilant of yourself to save you from the feelings and hallucinated experiences of a future that doesn't even exist. You feel this and others feel it to. They are mirroring it all back to you, Do you feel it?
Its starts Here, it starts now.
You don't need me to work this all out. you want me. To speed up the process, to show you what you cannot not see that is already with-in yourself. The intention to become extraordinary.
Im the man who will have your back when you feel like you just don't have the energy anymore. The person in your corner when all hell seems to be raining down on you and your emotions seems to volatile to hold. To hold you accountable and bring to light how to get to your next level of thinking.
You can learn all the books, have all the knowledge but if your emotions and fear hold you back from implementing actions, desire can never manifest.