Articles and Blogs

Our articles and blogs dive deep into the emotional reality of conflict separation, exploring the pain, fear, and growth that come with co-parenting, rebuilding after loss, and learning to love again. Through honest reflection and grounded insight, we unpack the hidden patterns and emotional triggers that shape how you think, feel, and respond during and after separation.

These writings explore what it means to raise children between two homes, to face the uncertainty of new relationships, and to navigate the complex layers of identity that form when love, family, and trust have been tested. These writings aim to help you recognise your emotional triggers, understand your behavioural responses, and uncover the internal representations you’ve built from your past experiences, the mental and emotional filters that shape how you see the world, others, and yourself.

By bringing awareness to these patterns, you begin to shift from reactivity to regulation, from fear to understanding. Our goal is to help you find calm through the chaos, rebuild emotional safety, and create relationships, with your children, your partner, and yourself, that are rooted in awareness, authenticity, and growth.

Relationship attachments styles

This category explores how our attachment patterns shape every relationship. From anxious clinging to avoidant withdrawal, these posts unpack how trauma and early experiences affect safety and connection after separation. You’ll learn to spot when survival instincts are guiding your reactions and how to build secure connection instead. Whether rebuilding trust or breaking old patterns, these reflections help you regulate, communicate, and love without losing yourself.

Relaxing Into Uncertainty After Conflict Separation

Relaxing into the variations of a partner’s emotional responses is the key to unravelling the fear of uncertainty that forms after the family court system in new potential relationships. When you spend so long being told what you’re doing wrong, a pattern builds where hyper vigilance around personal mistakes becomes automatic. You overanalyse yourself to the point of discomfort. Tie this to a former judgmental partner who always made it feel like everything was your fault, an

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 213 min read

You Are Not Tired of Walking on Eggshells in the Relationship, You're Tired of Monitoring Your Own Behaviour

Most people think they’re walking on eggshells because of their partner. But for so many anxiously attached or hyper-vigilant individuals, the truth is far more confronting: You’re not tired of your partner’s reactions. You ’re tired of analysing yourself every second of the day. But where is the true origin? You’re tired of trying to get everything right. Tired of scanning for micro-threats. Tired of trying to predict how someone might feel. Tired of checking, rechecking, re

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 203 min read

Training the Nervous System: Why New Strategies Matter After High-Conflict Separation

It’s going to be uncomfortable, like leaning over a sitting on herself and feeling that discomfort right up to your upper abdomen. BUT, working through our discomfort is where we actually grow. It’s where we become more grounded internally, more secure in our own ability to handle uncertainty, and where we develop new strategies that truly serve us. These are not strategies to manipulate an outcome. If you manipulate for outcome, you're still not developing strength in uncert

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 184 min read

When Silence Speaks Louder – Understanding Avoidant Behaviour After Separation

After a separation, particularly one marked by high conflict, the behaviour of an avoidant partner can feel cold, distant—even cruel. But behind the silence, the withdrawal, and the shutdown responses, there is often a far more complex truth. Avoidant individuals do not disconnect to punish. They disconnect to survive. To regulate. To protect themselves from overwhelm. Dr. Amir Levine, in his book Attached , explains that avoidant attachment develops in environments where em

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 62 min read

The Anxious Attachment Style, When Fear Feels Like Love

We often mistake anxiety for passion. The longing. The urgency. The desperate need to be understood, to feel seen, to be chosen again and again. But beneath these powerful emotions lies something far deeper—a fear of abandonment that stems not from weakness or failure, but from wounds formed long before our adult relationships began. Anxious attachment is not a flaw. It is a response—a strategy developed in early life to secure connection in environments where love felt unpre

Andrew Jaensch

Nov 610 min read

Articles and Blogs

Relationship attachments styles

Relaxing Into Uncertainty After Conflict Separation

You Are Not Tired of Walking on Eggshells in the Relationship, You're Tired of Monitoring Your Own Behaviour

Training the Nervous System: Why New Strategies Matter After High-Conflict Separation

When Silence Speaks Louder – Understanding Avoidant Behaviour After Separation

The Anxious Attachment Style, When Fear Feels Like Love

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