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Our articles and blogs dive deep into the emotional reality of conflict separation, exploring the pain, fear, and growth that come with co-parenting, rebuilding after loss, and learning to love again. Through honest reflection and grounded insight, we unpack the hidden patterns and emotional triggers that shape how you think, feel, and respond during and after separation.
These writings explore what it means to raise children between two homes, to face the uncertainty of new relationships, and to navigate the complex layers of identity that form when love, family, and trust have been tested. These writings aim to help you recognise your emotional triggers, understand your behavioural responses, and uncover the internal representations you’ve built from your past experiences, the mental and emotional filters that shape how you see the world, others, and yourself.
By bringing awareness to these patterns, you begin to shift from reactivity to regulation, from fear to understanding. Our goal is to help you find calm through the chaos, rebuild emotional safety, and create relationships, with your children, your partner, and yourself, that are rooted in awareness, authenticity, and growth.
You Are Not Tired of Walking on Eggshells in the Relationship, You're Tired of Monitoring Your Own Behaviour
Most people think they’re walking on eggshells because of their partner. But for so many anxiously attached or hyper-vigilant individuals, the truth is far more confronting: You’re not tired of your partner’s reactions. You ’re tired of analysing yourself every second of the day. But where is the true origin? You’re tired of trying to get everything right. Tired of scanning for micro-threats. Tired of trying to predict how someone might feel. Tired of checking, rechecking, re
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 203 min read
Money, Worth, and Receiving After Separation
Part 1: When Money and Love Feel the Same Many of us are working to heal the belief that we have to earn love. We used to think we had to be perfect, work hard, please others, or shape ourselves into what they needed just to be loved. But healing means learning we can receive love and respect simply for being ourselves. No performance. No exchange. But when it comes to money, many of us carry a very different belief. We feel guilty receiving money without having to do somethi
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 66 min read
Understanding Parental Alienation
The Terminator Alienator As we explore what parental alienation truly is, I urge you to reflect on your own behaviours in relation to what is written. If you genuinely wish to protect your children, please refrain from any form of parental alienation. It is difficult to accept, but even if you are not seeing your children and may not see them for some time, we must create an open door that stands in contrast to such manipulative and abusive behaviour. What one parent can in
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 66 min read
Child and parent relationships restricted and controlled, The Gatekeeping parent.
The Ferryman Gatekeeping is the limiting and control of a parent and child relationship. The autonomy for a child to bond with another parent is often monitored and controlled as best suits the controlling parent. This can involve setting the times of any interaction or communication or, in extreme cases, limiting contact altogether. I see the gatekeeping parent as the Ferryman on the River Styx, unless you have the right coin for passage, you are not getting across. This g
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 63 min read
Quiet Evidence, Powerful Impact: Using Everyday Records to Stay Grounded Through False Allegations
One highly overlooked piece of evidence in these situations is your bank statement. Most people don’t realise that transactions at stores, cafes, cinemas, or parking meters often include the time, date, and location of the purchase. If you buy movie tickets, lunch, or fuel during the time you have your children, it quietly supports your timeline of events. In court, these small but consistent records can undermine vague or false allegations, especially when the accusing party
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 62 min read
When Stress Walks into Work – The Corporate Cost of Deregulated Nervous Systems
Separation and divorce aren't just emotional breakups, they’re identity collapses. And in Western societies, where our lives are built around what we have, who we love, and the roles we play, the destruction of a family unit isn’t just personal loss, it’s structural collapse. It’s not the separation itself that tears people apart, it’s what the separation means . In countries like Australia, where justice systems drag on and favour procedure over humanity, separation can mean
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 64 min read
Supporting Employees Through Conflict Separation
A Corporate Resource for Creating a Stable, Trauma-Informed Workplace High-conflict separation, co-parenting challenges, and family court stress don’t just affect home life, they impact every part of a person’s wellbeing, including their work. Your employees may appear distracted, withdrawn, emotionally reactive, or frequently absent. But beneath the surface, they’re fighting to hold onto their children, their mental health, and their sense of safety in a system that often fe
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 63 min read
The Hidden Cost of Self-Worth: Why Projects Fail Before They Begin
In the corporate world, failure is often attributed to poor planning, lack of funding, or misaligned strategies. But beneath the spreadsheets, KPIs, and timelines, there’s a more human truth we rarely speak about: Projects often fail because the person behind them doesn’t believe they’re worthy of success. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a team leader, or an employee quietly carrying the weight of personal trauma, this truth applies across industries and roles. Self-worth isn
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 64 min read
Navigating Family Court Stress in the Workplace: How Businesses Can Support Employees in Survival Mode
For corporate employees, navigating the family court system is a journey filled with confusion, frustration, and an overwhelming sense of powerlessness. The sheer complexity of the process—and the reality that much of the legislation in place is not always upheld—creates a situation that logic alone cannot easily resolve. For employers, having a staff member caught in this long and unpredictable process can be equally challenging. Family law matters are rarely quick; they oft
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 62 min read
Validation That Matters: Creating Safety for Employees in Personal Crisis
Validation is not constant pats on the back or a quick, “Good job.” During personal trauma—especially high-conflict separation—chaos doesn’t just live in the individual’s outer world. It runs wild internally, in the mind and the nervous system. There’s a constant scanning for threats, a survival mode that rarely switches off. Employees in this state often don’t have the support to regulate their nervous system at home, and if the same is true at work, the stress compounds. Wi
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 62 min read
Conflict Separation, Identity, and the Workplace
After a conflict separation, an individual—whether navigating it independently or through the family court system—may find that their internal world and their sense of self is deeply altered. Hypervigilance sets in. They begin to monitor how they see themselves based on an almost constant attempt to keep others happy. The family court system is one of the most brutal experiences a person can endure—second only, perhaps, to war, abuse, and similar traumas. The judgments, the t
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 62 min read
The Employee’s Roller Coaster of Emotions
For employees navigating separation, especially those chained to the family court system. The ups and downs of emotions can be hard to predict or navigate. Sudden sick leave or mental health leave may become frequent, not because the employee is trying to sabotage the business or hates their position, but because they need some control while they process the chaos in their personal life. Businesses that demand too much from employees, with little to no culture or sense of bel
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 63 min read
Settling for Stability While Ignoring Red Flags
I see this all the time, and I’ve felt it in myself. That drive for stability after separation, to rebuild, to feel safe again. It’s understandable. When you’ve been through something as intense as a high-conflict separation, you don’t just want love, you crave ground beneath your feet. So we meet someone who seems like they have it all together. Good job, good car, a nice life. It looks like everything we’ve been trying to rebuild on our own, already built in front of us. Bu
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 62 min read
Wishing Others Would Change, And Why That Keeps Us Stuck
So many people sit in relationships feeling stuck. It’s the same person, same arguments, same frustrations—but we hold on, hoping something will shift. Some leave, thinking they’ll find someone “better,” only to end up in the same dynamic with a new face. Others pray that their partner will change, that the universe will finally deliver someone who matches their values, their vibe. As if there’s a shortage of people, or worse, as if it’s all about finding someone else to fill
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 63 min read
Dating After Hurt — Saying the Truth Without Losing Yourself
I don’t want you to feel bad about holding onto your truth when you meet someone you genuinely feel a connection with. Sometimes we meet someone at the gym, while out for coffee, doing the usual routine, and there’s this moment where you finally get the courage to say hi. You feel a spark. Maybe you swap numbers, grab a coffee, laugh a little, feel that familiar feeling of being seen again. But then there’s that gut pull — that internal voice that says, “You need to tell them
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 54 min read
The Hidden Cost of Holding On: Fear, Authenticity, and Commitment
It’s not surprising when we see individuals caught in relational conflict. More and more, the authentic self is being hidden—an attempt to shield the heart from the risk of rejection. So we hide. We meet people wearing the same masks, talking ourselves up while concealing the past that we fear may be seen the wrong way. We don’t want to hide, but it takes courage to be honest. Most people step into a new relationship, a new love, a new life, while still holding onto something
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 52 min read
Its Ok To Keep Going, Even Through the Tears
So often, we feel like it’s not okay to feel the way we do after separation. The world seems to shout that we must have it all together. So, on the outside, we put on a brave face — a mask for the world — while at home, we quietly fall apart. Neither is wrong. These protective behaviours serve us in different ways. The brave face protects us from external judgement. The internal breakdown is where we let it all out. But here’s the part we don’t always see: our children are wa
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 52 min read
The Hidden Wounds of Parental Alienation
In conflict separation and the family court process, it is often seen that one parent ends up with primary care of the child. In some cases, this is necessary—particularly when there is a genuine and proven history of abuse. But where it is not, or even in cases where abuse may have occurred but has been handled without addressing the deeper needs of the child, the real and lasting wounds are often formed in silence. Much of our culture discusses how a father’s treatment of a
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 53 min read
Children First: Why Emotional Coaching Matters in High-Conflict Separation
During the chaos of high-conflict separation, parents can become so caught up in their own emotions that they forget the role of co-regulation for a young child’s mind. A child who once lived in stability and routine, rhythm and melody , can be pushed off centre into a structure of misunderstanding. Their emotions can’t handle what they don’t understand. What looks like tantrums, anger, hitting, or talking back is often just pressure building—feelings that can no longer be co
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 53 min read
Choosing Fulfilment Over Familiarity: A New Path
You may be standing at a crossroad right now—torn between going back to the job you used to do, the one that paid the bills but never truly lit you up, or choosing a new path that feels more aligned with who you are becoming. After separation, trauma, or life upheaval, it’s natural to crave safety. To crave stability. You might think, “Maybe I should just go back to what I know.” But something feels different now. That old life, as familiar as it was, doesn’t quite fit anymor
Andrew Jaensch
Nov 53 min read
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