Family Court, creating Trauma for children.

With so many parents, individuals, court employees, specialised and experts expressing dissatisfaction with the Family Court system it becomes increasingly clear that the issues within the system do not fall solely on the judges, lawyers and experts. While some may make grave errors and be swayed by personal biases and external influence, it appears more and more that the Family Court system is fundamentally broken. It is no longer serving those who seek its shelter and aid. Family Court seems more as a tool for a parent to get their way, rather than what is in the best interest for all and especially children. Laws that are not upheld in Court make it difficult for both solicitor and client, while orders above the registrars and judges highly impact their rulings. Like most organisations, employees are ruled by their own internal guidelines, unbeknown to the general public and even lower employees and professionals. The Courts are, in effect, creating themselves the very environments that lead to such psychological abuse on children. Removing one parent and allowing only one to fulfill the child’s needs, leaving the child clinging to the parent in fear of further perceived abandonment. What are parents to do when their simple attempts to set boundaries as to safeguard the relationship between child and parent have its narrative twisted into the manifestation of coercive control by the other parent, undermining and manipulating the relationship through threats of police, Court, and taking a child away if their demands are not met, a ransom, “Do this or you will never see your child again”. And yet this is happening all over the world. Children used as a weapon of mass destruction wreaking havoc on a scared parent desperate to maintain whatever bonds may remain intact with their child and family. How is destroying a parent’s emotional stability, increasing stress and anxiety which increases the likelihood for disease and death, while delegating a parent to a weekend visitor, if at all, in anyway beneficial for our societies? With so many parents losing hope and drive to carry on, quitting jobs, losing homes, losing friends and family or even turning to end their life at a last-ditch effort to lessen their pain. How does any of this build our communities and economy? With the amount of money that is generated as taxable income through lawyers and expert invoices, it would seem like a poor choice as a business model and government in relation to keeping both parents at peace and still working for years to come, generating wealth for the economy and productive employment. But instead, our Court systems take so long, months to years, at an attempt to create some form of justice in a ruling that seems anything but fair for a parent and their children, inflicting such high emotional abuse and stress. Often parents giving up before any justice can be served. A simple economics model known as “The production possibilities curve” can illustrate how our Family Court systems are failing humanity and society through an evaluation of probabilities of outcomes to the economy. We understand that individuals that are at peace, happy, fulfilled, and have autonomy over their lives are productive, a benefit to themselves and those who employ them or use their services, generating more income for the economy. By destroying a human’s emotional state of mind and wellbeing through traumatic circumstances such as Family Court or having a child taken away while prolonging the abuse we inevitably compound the damaging effects over time for the individual and extended relationships. The simple evidence of positive possibilities and some form of autonomy is often all that is needed for humans to continue on, a choice that the Family Court very well has within its power. Instead, in so many high conflict situations a parent has unilaterally withheld a child from a loving parent to watch and let them suffer, while giving little to no compassion for a parent, often fathers, judged by all for having completely normal human emotions and reactions for such a traumatising event. Even Prisoners of war (POWs) can receive letters from home through humanitarian organizations like the Red Cross. And yet, often times a parent goes with not even a single proof of life. The Family Court treatment of parents would be one to make the United Nations cringe