About Me.
My name is Andrew Jaensch, and I created Conflict Separation Coaching for individuals who want to heal, grow, and become something more after high-conflict separation and the family court system.
My primary focus is on helping men heal, to understand the survival patterns they learned before and after separation, why their past relationships may not have worked, and how their own behaviours have shaped those outcomes. This work also helps their new partners understand what these men may be experiencing and why they sometimes react the way they do.
Before this, I ran a construction business as a carpenter and builder, gaining my full residential building license. I also designed and sold my own range of building tools across Australia. I am a creative artist and a loving father who never gave up on his children. But behind all that, I was navigating one brutal divorce that dragged on for years and kept pulling me back through the family court system. My relationship was unhealthy, and I hadn’t yet learned why I stayed in toxic patterns, why I fought and argued instead of walking away from what was damaging me.
That experience pushed me deep into my own psychology. I began studying behaviour, attachment styles, trauma, and emotional regulation to understand why my relationships failed, and what part I played in them. I learned how much of what we do in love, relationships, work, conflict, and court comes from old survival strategies aimed to keep us safe but that no longer serve us. My journey continued from 2017 to the present and continues, reading hundreds of books on Trauma, Relationships, attachment theory, spirituality, God, Love, Emotions, Theology and more. I studied Neuro Linguistic Programming completing my master in October 2025.
Now, my work is to help other men do the same.
To understand their relationships better.
To understand themselves better.
To learn their triggers and survival strategies in high conflict.
To discover what serves them, and what doesn’t.
I help men build emotional stability, patience, and strength so they can co-parent with clarity, show up as healthy partners, and create space for the women in their lives to feel safe, vulnerable, and trusting again.
Because too many men are still reacting like boys, driven by emotion, ego, and pain, especially within relationships and the family court system. That ends here.
This work isn’t about winning, not in love, and not in court. It’s about healing, accountability, and becoming the steady, grounded man who leads with calm and integrity, no matter the chaos around him.
If you want to wear masks, avoid accountability, or manipulate women, I’m not the coach for you.
But if you want to become the kind of man, father, and partner who is calm, caring, decisive, and driven by purpose, I want to work with you.
The truth is, most of our patterns were built in childhood. But healing isn’t about blaming others for how we were shaped, it’s about taking responsibility for who we choose to be now.
That’s where real strength is built.
That’s where attraction is born.
And that’s where men become safe to love.
About Conflict Separation Coaching
Conflict Separation Coaching was created for men who are ready to stop repeating the same emotional and behavioural patterns that keep them stuck in conflict, men who want to understand why things haven’t worked, why they react the way they do, and how to rebuild calm, clarity, and confidence during and after separation.
This work dives deep into the subconscious patterns that drive your responses in relationships and in court — the beliefs, fears, and emotional programs formed long before adulthood that surface as withdrawal, control, anger, people-pleasing, or avoidance. Together, we uncover what’s been running the show beneath the surface: the nervous system’s survival responses, the inner child’s fears, and the wounds that shape how you love, argue, parent, and protect yourself.
Through 1:1 coaching, counselling, and neuro-emotional reprogramming (NLP), you’ll learn to:
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Recognise your emotional triggers and respond with awareness rather than reactivity.
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Identify survival patterns in conflict, shutdown, control, compliance, anger, and transform them into self-regulation and grounded strength.
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Understand attachment styles and how they influence your reactions in love, separation, and co-parenting.
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Prepare emotionally and mentally for mediation, family reports, and court assessments so you can remain composed, consistent, and credible under stress.
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Communicate with clarity and calm in high-pressure environments where emotional regulation is your greatest asset.
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Rebuild healthy boundaries and confidence in co-parenting, without feeding conflict or losing yourself in it.
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Lay the groundwork for future relationships that feel safe, stable, and mutually respectful.
Conflict Separation Coaching is for men who are ready to take accountability, not blame. It’s for those who recognise patterns that no longer serve them and want to lead their lives, their children, and their relationships with emotional maturity, not reaction.
This isn’t about changing who you are; it’s about returning to who you were before the trauma, the chaos, and the conditioning. It’s about becoming the man who is calm through conflict, steady through emotion, and strong enough to love without fear.
When you heal the internal patterns that shaped your past, you stop reliving the same story. You show up differently, for yourself, for your children, and for the relationships that come next.